“People can’t change unless they first experience an emotional trauma which crumbles the very foundation of their core belief system… Only then can they actually change…”

This was the opinion of a very close friend of mine who had been a certified mental health care provider for the VA and had treated thousands of people through the years.

His opinion is not isolated by any means. This belief may be widely held among mental health care professionals… Which may come as a surprise to those of us who have experienced first hand that it is indeed possible to change.

I remember how shocked I was when he said this to me. He was someone who professed to be very enlightened. The statement “people can’t change” seemed completely out of character.

On the other hand, when you examine the lives of most people, his opinion may hold some water… For many people, it takes a personal emotional catastrophe of some kind to cause them to step off the merry-go-round of their day-to-day lives.

Even those individuals who know they are walking down the wrong path will not change direction until they get jolted into having to face the consequences of their actions, attitudes, opinions and beliefs…

So the question I have to pose here is: Why would anybody knowing something was wrong with some part of their life continue to ignore the foregone conclusion which always accompanies that kind of rationalization? You always hit the wall at some point… If you don’t believe me just look around and you’ll see that it happens to people all the time…

You already know where you’re heading when you are heading down the wrong path… You feel it… yet you shift your attention away from it as if it will just go away.

Well, it doesn’t.

Ask anyone who has experienced a mid-life crises. After they pick themselves up from the crash they inevitably experience… They are always surprised when they finally remember that “the signs” were clearly visible in their lives years before the traumatic life changing event manifested itself… They knew it was coming and did nothing about it.

Are you denying something right now that will turn out to be a ticking time-bomb in your life? You have the power and the responsibility to adjust the trajectory of your life before things get out of control… Remember: You can change. All you have to do is make the decision to do it.

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