Sometimes a good person can hold onto a bad feeling which takes on it’s own life. I’m talking about a “grudge”.

Having a grudge is a symptom of feeling betrayed and wronged by someone. The grudge builds over time because you are unable to address this situation with that person in a manner that brings closure. So you continue to replay the situation and every time it happens you are still powerless to change the outcome.

No matter how you think about what took place it will always turn out the way it does.

You were hurt and betrayed by someone… and a part of you wants get even. You want them to feel the same pain you feel.

Because you physically are unable to do that (which is good!), you do it in your mind. Where it festers and robs you of your energy. Pretty soon you are surprised at how this grudge begins to color many other aspects of your life, like your attitude and expectations.

Now it’s time to do something for yourself.

You must decide to break the control, the person or situation which caused the grudge, has over you. That’s right you are still under the control of what has now become just a memory. There is only one solution which will once and for all free you from the shackles of this unresolved memory.

FOGIVENESS!

Only you can use the power of forgiveness to, once and for all, break the “loop”. Replaying the memory of the unresolved situation that has now become a painful memory. It’s probably not even a memory anymore it’s just a feeling.

Forgiveness is actually your way of really getting back at the person who wronged you! How is this possible?

When you are able to think about a situation or an individual with a complete lack of emotion (dispassionately) you have taken back the control you lost to what triggered the feeling associated with the person or situation. In other words you and you alone can have the final “say so”. You have the power to make the situation finally go your way.

Forgiveness gives you the ability to say “I’m through with you…because I now feel nothing what-so-ever about you or the situation…therefore I win!”.

Forgiveness does not absolve anyone of responsibility. It only acts as means to free yourself from any further pain. I’ve written an article on forgiveness you can read here. The principle of forgiveness is covered in depth in the 24 lesson “Intentional Prosperity™ Essentials” online interactive program.

I believe forgiveness is a powerful healing process that is always in your own best interest…because it puts you back in control… and one of the reasons a grudge continues to grow over time is because the anger you feel gives you a false feeling of control… Only forgiveness really puts you in control and allows you to have the final “say so”.

So forgive and keep forgiving until you have no emotional reaction to the person or situation with which you been holding on to the grudge with.

-Bob Baran