Envy has been a topic of concern recently here at “The Best Years of Your Life… Now! blog. I’d like to expand a bit from the last post regarding envy, which can be found here.

Bob mentioned that there may be deeper self-esteem issues involved if you are paralyzed in your search for success by the perceived envy of others. This, I believe, is the truest cause of “fear of envy”, a lack of self-esteem and a fear of success.

Fear of success can be the direct result of having a low opinion of yourself. If you succeed, it will negate all the beliefs you have about being not worthy. How can you possibly succeed when you are a nematode (a miniscule piece of dirt)? If your true beliefs about yourself are that you are not a good person and that success is not for you, of course you will fear the envy of others.

As a people, we tend to look up to those who have more, or are perceived as having more, than us. But there are many, who when they see others are doing well, will say, “I hate that person. How did they get so lucky? My life is shxxxt and they… they have everything.” If you are a sensitive person and have had contact with individuals who express those vicious and negative feelings, it is no surprise that you want no part in attracting that kind of attention to yourself. But if you want to better your life and you want success as a part of your lifestyle, you will have to realize that there will always be people who will want to tear you down. You just don’t let them.

How do you defuse their envy and negativity? You become duck-like. As Bob stated in the blog about what other people think, it’s been so long since he worried about what someone else thought about him, and his success, that he didn’t even consider it as an issue when he was asked what to do about envy. He has become duck-like (where water rolls off your back). Any negativity or envy directed his way never reaches its mark, it just rolls off.

You can become this way as well. The first step is to remove yourself from the influence of those individuals who’s words and actions make your fear their envy. If you feel you are unable to get away from this negativity, because of family ties or perhaps even marriage, then move on to step two.

The second step is to improve your self-esteem. When you improve your self-esteem, step one may not even be necessary. How do you improve your self-esteem? There are a number of different ways to do this. Our life coaching program, “The Intentional Prosperity System” is one of the ways. We would be happy to help you move away from those issues that are holding you back from your success. To get started, read a few more blogs or some of Bob’s articles at www.passion-unlocks-prosperity.com to see if we would be a good fit for you. Or you can call us for a 15 minute consultation… 406-475-3458.

You can be living the life of your dreams. You can be living them now! You don’t have to let the fear of other’s envy, your fear of success or your low self-esteem get in the way any longer.

Be well, be joyful and Happy Easter!

- Gwen Baran