Have you ever wondered why family members or old friends don’t take you seriously? Especially, if you are in the process of making positive life changes?

The reason is they still have a view of you that doesn’t reflect who you are now. They may still see you as a teenager or a child. Or perhaps they were strongly influenced by some actions you took when you were going through some tough times.

Whatever the cause, they don’t see the changes you’ve made over the years and therefore they can’t see where the changes, you are currently going through, are going to take you.

They have the “habit” of seeing for not yourself, but who you were. It is difficult for them to take you seriously if they are seeing you as a child or as an individual who’s got troubles.

When you are in the process of making life changes, if you have a family or friends that have outdated views or opinions of who you are, it is best to avoid telling them about what is going on in your life. They will not be supportive and may even try to sabotage your progress. Usually unconsciously, as they are just protecting their current reality and your place in it… in their mind.

No matter how many changes you have made, family members or friends may not be able to recognize or acknowledge them. This is not a problem in you. It is their problem and you can’t fix them and will only frustrate yourself if you try.

Keep up with your positive growth and life changes and you will find new friends to share the new you with. Your family… maybe they will come around someday from your example of the way you think and live, but don’t count on it. Just love and accept them for who they are and don’t let their opinions, attitudes and beliefs disturb you.

Be yourself… live your dreams,

- Gwen Baran