The Best Years of Your Life… Now!

How many years have you been sensing that something is missing in your life?

As we progress through the various phases of our lives it’s not unusual to recognize that what we thought was going to be satisfying and fulfilling, really isn’t. All those things you’ve done (through the years) to occupy yourself has done little more than temporarily distracted you from the feeling that something is missing.

We throw our selves into our careers, jobs, our kids, our marriage and ride the merry-go-round. Then one day we awaken to the realization that there is a hole inside us. We have spent so much of our lives living in the outer world we have forgotten our inner world.

Do you have the feeling that something is missing?

You’re not alone. Ask your friends if they feel like something is missing in their lives. You are more than likely going to find that those who lead very busy lives with many varied activities are more likely to feel like something is missing. Seems ironic but what’s missing is the connection with their inner self.

-Bob Baran

The crossroads is that point in your life when you must make a decision.

It happens when you suddenly glimpse the greater purpose of your life. Especially if that truth, what you know in the deepest part of yourself, is in conflict with what you have been thinking, doing and saying… All the things you have convinced yourself you are supposed to be doing, right now, with your life.

Your first reaction is fear. You want to hang-on to the layers of rationale you have built to sustain the determination of your current day-to-day life. You know that even contemplating this greater purpose of your life can collapse the layers of rationale you have built over time to justify your current life path.

Does this mean that the only purpose of your current life path was to create a situation which would enable the glimpse of this greater purpose? The answer is yes.

Coming into the awareness of your truth may cause an initial reaction of fear, uncertainty and doubt. A normal reaction from your mind’s status quo protection mechanism. The left-brain analytical mind does not want to unravel the attitudes, opinions and beliefs it has relied upon to build the rationale which perpetuates your current day- to-day reality.

Especially if coming into the awareness of your truth means you must change the direction of your life… Especially when you know you must.

Most people will deny their greater purpose and continue to rationalize their day-to-day life. Their road does not change. The few who have the courage to recognize and embrace their greater truth become the conduit which brings good things and good experiences into their life and the lives of others.

They are the ones who change the world.

-Bob Baran

I didn’t invent the term vainglorious.

It describes a disturbing trend amongst young women who act without regard to the long-term ramifications of their narcisim…

I blame their parents.

The internet is full of them. Piercing, tattooing and indulging in sexually provocative and explicit conduct. The thing is, the internet is forever. What you indulge in today, lives on long after you’ve outgrown and matured beyond your stupid mistakes.

Do I sound like a prude?

I’m not. I don’t hold back when I play the sax. My stage presence is an important part of the intense nature of my musical performance.. but I’m not talking about “performers”, I’m talking about twenty somethings who have no talent and are acting “over the top” because they have been given an instant “digital stage”.

Obviously these girls are under the influence.

The greatest influence being their own narcism. Anything goes, cause “I can do no wrong”. It’s a mindset that comes from an upbringing where the most mediocre accomplishment is met with praise. You end up with a person who has been conditioned to believe that anything they think, do or say is “cute”… worthy of attention, praise and is beyond the introspection of criticism.

The thing is, there is now an inescapable digital paper trail which will haunt these girls the rest of their lives. Up till now, the past generations have been blessed with memories where the details tended to fade over time. Remember “free love”? Only an ocaisional documentary with a few film clips remind us of how it was in the ’60’s… A big relief for the vainglorious moments of the past.

Today’s generation doesn’t have that advantage. What they do today will live on as if it just happened yesterday.

A prospective employer only has to “google” her name…and there it all is. Every word, deed, picture and video…

Unfortunately, digitized information doesn’t age or fade overtime. Today’s vainglorious moment will haunt for a lifetime.

-Bob Baran

Envy has been a topic of concern recently here at “The Best Years of Your Life… Now! blog. I’d like to expand a bit from the last post regarding envy, which can be found here.

Bob mentioned that there may be deeper self-esteem issues involved if you are paralyzed in your search for success by the perceived envy of others. This, I believe, is the truest cause of “fear of envy”, a lack of self-esteem and a fear of success.

Fear of success can be the direct result of having a low opinion of yourself. If you succeed, it will negate all the beliefs you have about being not worthy. How can you possibly succeed when you are a nematode (a miniscule piece of dirt)? If your true beliefs about yourself are that you are not a good person and that success is not for you, of course you will fear the envy of others.

As a people, we tend to look up to those who have more, or are perceived as having more, than us. But there are many, who when they see others are doing well, will say, “I hate that person. How did they get so lucky? My life is shxxxt and they… they have everything.” If you are a sensitive person and have had contact with individuals who express those vicious and negative feelings, it is no surprise that you want no part in attracting that kind of attention to yourself. But if you want to better your life and you want success as a part of your lifestyle, you will have to realize that there will always be people who will want to tear you down. You just don’t let them.

How do you defuse their envy and negativity? You become duck-like. As Bob stated in the blog about what other people think, it’s been so long since he worried about what someone else thought about him, and his success, that he didn’t even consider it as an issue when he was asked what to do about envy. He has become duck-like (where water rolls off your back). Any negativity or envy directed his way never reaches its mark, it just rolls off.

You can become this way as well. The first step is to remove yourself from the influence of those individuals who’s words and actions make your fear their envy. If you feel you are unable to get away from this negativity, because of family ties or perhaps even marriage, then move on to step two.

The second step is to improve your self-esteem. When you improve your self-esteem, step one may not even be necessary. How do you improve your self-esteem? There are a number of different ways to do this. Our life coaching program, “The Intentional Prosperity System” is one of the ways. We would be happy to help you move away from those issues that are holding you back from your success. To get started, read a few more blogs or some of Bob’s articles at www.passion-unlocks-prosperity.com to see if we would be a good fit for you. Or you can call us for a 15 minute consultation… 406-475-3458.

You can be living the life of your dreams. You can be living them now! You don’t have to let the fear of other’s envy, your fear of success or your low self-esteem get in the way any longer.

Be well, be joyful and Happy Easter!

- Gwen Baran

The more completely you understand something, the more likely you are not to make it a reality in your life.

This is the dichotomy which explains why so many people who seem to understand the process of life, are never able to implement it in their lives.

It works like this:

The more you are able to rationalize something, the greater the experience your mind has with it. Your mind cannot tell the difference between inner or outer reality. It perceives as real, whatever you focus your attention on. The more you focus your attention, the more real that thing becomes to the mind.

It’s possible to fool the mind into believing that it has already experienced the physical reality of what it has only come to believe is real.

Have you ever heard the old saying: Tell a lie often enough and you will come to believe it.? This refers to the phenomenon of repetition and the subsequent rationalization process the mind goes through to justify the repetition. The more you focus on something, real or not, the more the mind will begin to react in a manner which will rationalize what it focuses on as real .

This is why you have so many people who can make themselves feel good thinking a certain way, without ever making how they feel become a part of their day-to-day reality. It also explains the person who can pontificate with great detail and authority, while the reality of their life never reflects what they think they know.

The mind can trick itself into believing something is real, even if it has never experienced it.

There is a disconnect between many people who claim to understand “how things work” and the chaos of their day-to-day lives. They are operating only from the intellectualization of the information. Not the realization of the information which would make it a part of their consciousness. Thus it exists only as information, rationalized and catagorized by their mind.

Not as a part of their knowingness which is reflected by their day-to-day reality.

-Bob Baran