FOH (fear of happiness) is a disease you try to hide but everybody knows you have.

When everything in your life reflects this awful feeling you live with, how do you expect people not to see it? It affects everything you do and think about. The depressed energy you resonate makes people want to avoid you. You may have already become a borderline “energy vampire”… How is your social life anyway?

Oh, you know how to act. Just put on your “game face” when you’re out in public…but you know inside that you’re just pretending to be happy… and guess what? Everybody can see right through you!

How long are you going to keep living this way?

Are you going to keep fooling yourself by blaming things, people and experiences? Do you really believe those things are keeping you from being happy? Have you wasted enough time? When are you going to stop listening to your ego tell you everyone else is the problem?

Are you tired of feeling miserable, like life is leaving you behind? You can do something about it. It’s not going to happen overnight. It’s going to take place in steps, simple steps.

First, you are going to have to come to grips with one overriding reality:

Your fear of happiness is really based on the fear of finding happiness and then losing it.

You are actually afraid of the pain that comes with losing what makes you happy. Therefore, it is easier to avoid what could make you happy, thereby avoiding the possibility of pain. Hard to fathom? Couldn’t be you? Keep reading:

Your mind doesn’t want to experience pain and confusion. It will do everything it can to avoid it. If you’ve had experiences in the past where your happiness was cut short and felt pain and confusion, your mind will begin to associate possibility of happiness with the potential for pain. Sounds crazy, but this is how the mind works.

Living your life in a manner that avoids passion and happiness becomes habitual. . You wake up one day to the realization that your day-to-day life has become so much smaller than it used to be. This happened because you’ve only been doing what is emotionally safe. That kind of safe cuts you off from just about everything that has any real value: Relationships, friends, new things and experiences. Safe means avoiding anything that could potentially bring you emotional pain. Which is just about everything except staying at home sitting in front of the tv or computer.

By the way, you’re not the only person who lives with the fear of happiness. Most people have experienced it at some point. Just look around and you’ll see that the majority of people deal with it by lowering their expectations. They actually convince themselves that not expecting much out of life is how you’re supposed to live!

I’m guessing you don’t want to feel and live this way any more.

You didn’t arrive here at this web page and read this far by accident. You may have reached a point where something inside you is trying to get your attention… Telling you that the life you are living is not the one you are supposed to have.

But what can you do about it?

The first thing is accepting that you have the ability and power to make the kinds of changes that will bring you into the life you think you should be living. A life where happiness is something which is an everyday occurance.

If you can imagine that it’s possible to feel happiness, better than you ever believed, might be possible… you’ve already taken an important first step.

Nothing is possible unless you first believe it’s possible.
-Bob Baran