The Best Years of Your Life… Now!

No matter how crazy our world gets, there is hope. Everything always works out for the best. Even if it doesn’t look exactly the way we thought it should turn out.

I know, tell that to the people who were in the two towers. Tell it to the one’s who were left behind. I don’t have a pollyanna response to that. It was a horrific event. I know people who were there. I know people who should have been in the towers that day, but they weren’t. There is hope.

Sure, September 11th, 2001 seems like a long time ago, however, it defines our world. There is USA pre 9-11 and post 9-11. The fear, terror and unbelievable horror occupied our minds for weeks, months and for some even longer. Lives were shattered in a way that hadn’t happened before in our history.

As a country, we have moved on. We had to. Hope is what keeps us going. Hope that we can rebuild our lives… And most of us can and do.

Right now another country is facing horror on an even greater scale. One created by nature. The earthquake in China has taken many lives and shattered homes and villages. When you hear the reports coming out of the area, they still contain hope. A man rescued 139 hours after the quake, 2 women pulled out alive after being buried for almost 7 days.

There is always hope. It is part of our human nature.

Wherever this post finds you, I wish you hope.

- Gwen Baran

Here’s a reality check for you:

Over 6 billion people live on the planet. Each one has their own unique reality. Each one has the ability to rationalize the best or the worst possible into a belief. No one understands anything the same way… The lowest common denominator possible is what we agree to as our shared physical reality.

Any possible human relationship is taking place right now somewhere in the world
and no matter what that relationship entails it is fully justified by both the willing and unwilling participants.

The human mind possesses no mechanism for determining what is true. Everything we believe is based upon an arbitrary assumption, which is then rationalized into attitudes, opinions and beliefs.

A human is born with a blank mind. It’s human nature to believe whatever is first imprinted upon the blank mind, as truth. People will die and kill to perpetuate what they believe is truth.

The ego is the god of an individual’s reality. It’s never wrong and will not tolerate any threat to its sovereignty. The strongest egos become the leaders of other humans. They set the rules of the “shared physical reality.

Every human is born with two innate abilities: Imagination and the power to decide how to use it. Most are unaware of or outright deny this reality. Humans will engage in activities even when they are fully aware that it is self destructive and will result in pain and suffering.

Every human knows they will one day die. Yet, few question the purpose of their life.

Hell: A place where anything is possible, every version of reality is true to the perceiver and, no matter what you do, the only escape is death.

The anything is possible part turns me on!

-Bob Baran

Or were you born already burdened with baggage that determines how your life is going to turn out?

There is no escaping the fact that the family you were born into has baggage. That baggage becomes your baggage… Attitudes, opinions and beliefs were “put into you”. You became the perfect clone of the best and worst of your family… Then something started to happen:

You began to think for yourself… at least some did.

Looking around at the state of things in the world today, it’s obvious that the vast majority of humans fail to achieve the critical mass, in their lives, which causes them to question what they believe and why they believe it.

You see, if you are one of the few who have taken the best of what your upbringing gave you and worked to unload the baggage, you’re in a surprising minority. You actually questioned the reality of your conditioning and then took action to bring your attitudes, opinions and beliefs into balance with what you consciously choose to accept as your reality. Not what was given to you (as a child) when you had no possibility to know or understand the “truth” of it… if there was any truth to it.

To you who have struggled to grow beyond your childhood conditioning and the effects of your environment… I say two things:

1. You are the true light giver! You have, without realizing it, given inspiration to those around you that so much more is possible. Rather than wallowing in the excuse of victimization, you have proven you have the power to determine the outcome of your life.

2. Never give up! As you expand the self imposed barriers of your imagination into new areas of what is possible, you move all of mankind along with you. Your personal spiritual journey benefits us all. Never let the momentary feelings of being overwhelmed or discouraged become the dead-end of your journey.

There are billions who are a few steps behind you.

One day some of them will take the same steps you have taken and find themselves in the same place you now find yourself. The good your life has created will benefit those who, like you, have found the courage to step into a life they choose to create… not a life that was chosen for them.

In the end, your life’s journey will be a gift to mankind.

“Anything is possible. Your life is a Master Class on deciding how you prove it”.

-Bob Baran

Feeling a growing emptiness inside yourself?

How many years have you been sensing that something is missing in your life? As we progress through the various phases of our lives, it’s not unusual to recognize that what we thought was going to be satisfying and fulfilling, really isn’t.

All those things you’ve done (through the years) to occupy yourself has done little more than temporarily distracted you from the feeling that something is missing. Every day that passes you are reminded that another opportunity has slipped through your fingers.

You see, deep inside you there is a hunger that you haven’t fed.

There’s a part of yourself you still don’t know or maybe you forgot. That part of you still believes in you. It has never lost faith that one day you would remember.

When you sleep and dream you still have memories, vivid and immersive. In the theatre of your mind somewhere just beyond the day-to-day limitations of your imagination that missing something is waiting for you.

It’s time for you to come home again.

Your heart misses you… There are still dreams waiting to be dreamed.

-Bob Baran

FOH (fear of happiness) is a disease you try to hide but everybody knows you have.

When everything in your life reflects this awful feeling you live with, how do you expect people not to see it? It affects everything you do and think about. The depressed energy you resonate makes people want to avoid you. You may have already become a borderline “energy vampire”… How is your social life anyway?

Oh, you know how to act. Just put on your “game face” when you’re out in public…but you know inside that you’re just pretending to be happy… and guess what? Everybody can see right through you!

How long are you going to keep living this way?

Are you going to keep fooling yourself by blaming things, people and experiences? Do you really believe those things are keeping you from being happy? Have you wasted enough time? When are you going to stop listening to your ego tell you everyone else is the problem?

Are you tired of feeling miserable, like life is leaving you behind? You can do something about it. It’s not going to happen overnight. It’s going to take place in steps, simple steps.

First, you are going to have to come to grips with one overriding reality:

Your fear of happiness is really based on the fear of finding happiness and then losing it.

You are actually afraid of the pain that comes with losing what makes you happy. Therefore, it is easier to avoid what could make you happy, thereby avoiding the possibility of pain. Hard to fathom? Couldn’t be you? Keep reading:

Your mind doesn’t want to experience pain and confusion. It will do everything it can to avoid it. If you’ve had experiences in the past where your happiness was cut short and felt pain and confusion, your mind will begin to associate possibility of happiness with the potential for pain. Sounds crazy, but this is how the mind works.

Living your life in a manner that avoids passion and happiness becomes habitual. . You wake up one day to the realization that your day-to-day life has become so much smaller than it used to be. This happened because you’ve only been doing what is emotionally safe. That kind of safe cuts you off from just about everything that has any real value: Relationships, friends, new things and experiences. Safe means avoiding anything that could potentially bring you emotional pain. Which is just about everything except staying at home sitting in front of the tv or computer.

By the way, you’re not the only person who lives with the fear of happiness. Most people have experienced it at some point. Just look around and you’ll see that the majority of people deal with it by lowering their expectations. They actually convince themselves that not expecting much out of life is how you’re supposed to live!

I’m guessing you don’t want to feel and live this way any more.

You didn’t arrive here at this web page and read this far by accident. You may have reached a point where something inside you is trying to get your attention… Telling you that the life you are living is not the one you are supposed to have.

But what can you do about it?

The first thing is accepting that you have the ability and power to make the kinds of changes that will bring you into the life you think you should be living. A life where happiness is something which is an everyday occurance.

If you can imagine that it’s possible to feel happiness, better than you ever believed, might be possible… you’ve already taken an important first step.

Nothing is possible unless you first believe it’s possible.
-Bob Baran