I’m going to make a statement that will be controversial for some of you and for others will ring with the truth–”routine sex” is making you old and bitter.

The majority of women have never had an “all encompassing” deeply satisfying sexual experience–and the majority of men have never fully embraced the “man inside” and mastered his (kundalini) sexual energ–which is necessary for a woman to have a deeply satisfying experience.

Most adults have what I would call “immature” sex. Whatever their earliest experiences with sex happened to be is pretty much what their experience continues to be–for the rest of their lives. In a nut-shell: “body-sex”–which as time goes on, becomes little more than a mechanical routine, instead of one part of the profoundly connecting deeply loving experience between a man and a woman, sexual connection is supposed to be.

Why else do you think divorce rates are above 50% for first time marriages and as high as 70% for second marriages?

The answer is simple: The natural man and natural woman have been systematically erased from our culture. We’re left with images and impressions all based upon “body-sex” which is only one component of the several components necessary for a deeply satisfying sexual connection between a man and a woman.

Your culture is selling you a bill of goods when it comes to sex.

You’re constantly being titilated, teased and manipulated by images, impressions and feelings that are the false promise of “body-sex”. Without connection, love and true intimacy, sex is fleeting, forgettable, unsatisfying and empty.

It leaves you feeling that something is missing in your life because the most basic primal need you have is not being addressed–which is worse if you happen to be married! Don’t think for a minute that your spouse isn’t feeling the very same thing! He or she is–absolutely!

Not verbalizing how he or shel feels, to you, is part of the “cultural conditioning” problem.

Sex isn’t important? Go ahead–live your life and make the best of things–loosing yourself in your day-to-day life activities–which at the end of the day also seem un-fulfilling, empty and directionless. Robbed of your natural sexual energies–being amplified–your life will feel incomplete and directionless. No amount of distraction or escapism is going to fill that void or change anything.

You can’t live a full life by ignoring or outright denying one of nature’s most powerful natural sources of joy, fulfillment, grounding, connection, intimacy and amplified life energy–which is possible between a man and a woman. It’s in our DNA and it’s how men and women are hard-wired.

You can’t continue to go through the superficial motions of body-sex–only to feel empty and wanting more–you have to do something about it or you will become old and bitter before your time.

I told you this was going to be controversial.

-Bob Baran