The Best Years of Your Life… Now!

The world as we know it has changed forever…

The events in the world of finance last week, will go down in history as the most  dramatic change in “the American Way of Life” since the founding of the United States.

As with the greatest changes that happen to societies, this one slipped in under the door — suddenly upon us –  and  required extreme immediate  action in order to deal with it.  

According to Secretary Paulson, of the US Treasury and Bernanke, of the Federal Reserve we were hours away from a complete meltdown of the global financial system.

A complete meltdown of the global financial system?  How come I didnt’ hear about this on any of the mainstream media — before it was only “hours away”?

What a minute — why is it only the pundits, conspiracy theorists and nay-sayers —  who inhabit late night radio, web sites and blogs —  have been calling attention to this “global problem” for months and years? 

How is it that the so-called “fringe” could see it coming and our trusted main stream media wasn’t picking up on the story?

It’s called denial

Nobody wants to point to reality and call attention to a looming problem.  Hey,  it would be way too much common sense to deal with it before it became a potential global financial meltdown.

Are those guys who are in charge —  that out of touch with reality?  YES!

Am I the only one who’s getting this?

But then you shouldn’t be surprised. The way most people deal with the reality of their personal lives — denial — is going to translate into how “society” deals with it’s growing problems.  Oh, and did you notice nobody’s taking blame for the obvious out of control nature of the system which led to this potential meltdown?

Many psychologists believe that real change only comes as the result of emotional truama.  In other words, something that “wakes you up” out of your complacency. 

Like finding out your credit card no longer has that line of credit you thought was available to you —  because the financial institution can’t borrow the funds it needs to cover it’s promise of credit to you… That’s the financial meltdown part.

For those of you already immersed in the Intentional Prosperity philosophy, you know you’re going to weather this coming storm.  

You’re going to be okay no matter what happens.

Whatever changes come in the coming weeks and months — understanding how the human operating system works gives you an unprecedented advantage over the ups and downs of life.  You will be fine.

Maybe I’m over reacting to Secretary Paulson’s  “the sky is falling”  proclamation about the global financial meltdown.

But what it the sky really is falling?

How strong is your inner foundation?  Is it going to support your roof if something unexpected falls on it?

-Bob Baran

I hope you enjoy this introduction video Gwen made for our sister-site www.romancetrap.com

As you may already know, we’ve been scheduling radio interviews — beginning later this fall — to introduce our new “The Romance Trap” book and dating for marriage system around the country.

I’ve written many times about my belief that finding true love is life’s most important experience.

I also believe that one of the greatest ongoing causes of inner turmoil is being in a relationship with the wrong person. It’s the single biggest “vital energy” drain that there is — and too many people deny or bury this disruptive part of their lives.

Then wonder why they can’t feel any real passion anymore — or why “something is missing” in their lives. The reason something is missing is — for too many people in our modern world — the most basic need of personal connection, true intimacy and love is going unfulfilled.

Gwen and I decided earlier this year that it was an issue that we had to address.

Our shared belief in the Intentional Prosperity™ philosophy made it quite clear to us that we had a responsibility to help those who are seeking true love. Which is the ultimate definition of a prosperity and abundance lifestyle.

If you know a single woman please forward this blog post to her. If she is still looking for the man of her dreams “The Romance Trap” is going to help her find the “good man” she knows in her heart is out there somewhere.

-Bob Baran

The fear of success may have a cause — for some — that has nothing to do with the commonly accepted reason — poor self esteem.

I’ve seen it time after time — someone determined to reach a goal starts acting out of character as soon as it becomes apparent they may actually achieve it.

It’s been called the fear of success.

I remember first experiencing this phenomenon when I was in my early twenties.  I was in a band that had a real chance.  An investor appeared who started talking about taking steps to get serious.  

Then the craziest thing started to happen.

The leader of the band — the guy who’s music we were playing –  began to self-destruct!  Started saying and doing things that would make any investor pull back.  Well,  that’s what happened.

Once the investor left the scene the band leader’s demeanor changed.

He went back to being the serious leader and composer we all respected — but his unexpected actions left a chill on the band members  that eventually drained the enthusiasm and trust we had in our future together.  

One day the band was no-more.

Years later I came to understand that many people self-destruct when the brass ring they’ve been chasing comes into sight.  The fear of success may be the result of the “adventure” finally coming to an end because the goal is about to be achieved.

When people become so fixated on achieving a goal — that it becomes the sole purpose of their life  — actually achieving  the goal  may  threaten  their life purpose!   

So the fear of losing one’s life purpose may be one of the reasons for self-defeating behavior usually associated with the fear of success.

By the way, the band leader I mentioned had a musical career with several bands that almost made it…

-Bob Baran 

In the world of self-growth there are a number of techniques.

Some are like the flavor of the month.  Appealing because of their simplicity and seeming one-size-fits-all remedy for all the problems you want to fix.

Sorry to inform you that there is no single technique that going to be “the answer”.

In fact, common sense should have you ask a simple question:

If a given technique is so effective, why are those who swear by and use the technique still “working through issues” —  years after they were introduced to the so-called healing technique?

The problem with the single technique approach is that it’s very much like one of those plate holders you see at a buffet.  You remove the top plate and another one rises to replace it.

This is what happens when you use a single “healing” technique.  

You’re only addressing a single instance of “emotional trauma”.  Let me give you an example of what I’m talking about:

For the sake of argument, let’s say that from the time you are two years old to the time you are forty years old you probably have at least an average of one “traumatic” experience per day. When I say “traumatic” I’m referring to anything that shakes up your equilibrium — which can vary from something extreme to someone beeping their car horn at you.  As far as your mind and emotions are concerned, it’s still a “traumatic” experience, to a greater or lesser degree.

Since there are 365 days in a year (x 38 years) you are looking at a minimum of 13,700 “truamatic” experiences which are lined up — one below the other — needing “the technique” to help dissolve all those emotional traumas.  

My point is this:

Unless you take a holistic approach to your imagination-emotion-mind-body system — which no single technique can do — you will find yourself months and years later still using the same technique and still having yet another issue to confront.

Because you’re only confronting the symptoms — not getting at the cause of the trauma.

That requires an understanding of your inner operating system — and using several techniques — designed to create a synergy between your imagination-emotion-mind - body system.

If you want real change you have to do more than put a new emotional bandage on every day.

You’re going to have to take back control over those aspects of yourself which are no longer working on your behalf.  

Emotional trauma is only a symptom of how you react to stimulus.

Adjusting your reaction by altering your attitudes, opinions and beliefs — to come into balance with what you “want” to believe is your truth —  will alter the way you filter and react to your day-to-day life.

This is why “The Intentional Prosperity™ System” has seven different techniques 

We use a holistic approach to insure the balanced alteration of your core beliefs. By exposing what you really believe to your waking mind — you reclaim the power of choice. You can “pass judgement” on that belief  based upon your current understanding and experience.  This breaks the automatic reactions that keep creating unintended consequences in your life.

The proof is in the pudding…

As the years go by — the believers in the single technique will be dealing with the “next issue”. Yet another emotional trauma will be the focus of their attention — requiring that technique they’ve become so dependent upon… To help them get through another day.

And at the end of the day — They’ll still feel like “something’s missing”.

-Bob Baran 

If you could go back in time — time travel — and talk to yourself  when you were a child — would you do it? What would you say?

I was listening to a radio show last night.  The guest was speculating on time travel.  When he was asked the question about going back in time — he answered with several well known moments in history he would like to witness first-hand.

As I listened to his answers,  my mind drifted off to certain incidents in my childhood.

I wish I could go back and “be there” for the support and encouragement I never had… How differently my life would have turned out if I had someone who would have offered common sense advice and emotional support.

Of course, you  can’t go back in time and change what has already taken place.

What you’ve gone through during the course of your life is responsible for who you are now and the life you’re living.

With that in mind, I wouldn’t want to change anything I’ve been through — because I don’t want to jeopardize the future good —  I’m experiencing at this point in my life.

What about the child inside you that could have benefited from some kindness “back in the day”?

You have the ability to  provide the child inside you with the support and understanding he or she never had all those years ago.

It’s possible for you to actually have a conversation with the child inside —  who may still be locked into the trauma of some moment long ago in the past.

There are several techniques useful for this purpose.

Without going into detail here in the limited space of this posting — you can lift the trauma and emotional intensity of a past situation — thereby lifting the “burden” which has been carried forward in time from the past. A burden that still survives just below “the radar” of your day-to-day life — and may still play a role in the decisions you make and the reactions you have.

In “The Intentional Prosperity™ System we provide seven different techniques that can be used individually or in combination  to dissolve the “emotional ghosts” of the past.

The important thing is that you can give the much needed love and support to the child inside you — because that child is still a part of you no matter how old you are.

How nice it would have been for someone to have said to me: “Don’t worry Bobby, you’re going to have a fantastic life”.

Did you hear that kiddo? 

All your dreams have come true!  All the crap you had to go through made you a better man.

-Bob Baran