The Best Years of Your Life… Now!

Time and time again I’m astonished by one thing:

Why would anyone offer up a mediocre example of their “best effort”?

Sounds contradictory doesn’t it?  Best effort would be what you’re most proud of – the best of the best you’ve accomplished. But, I’ve seen people time and time again self-sabotage by pointing to their “5″ rather than to their “10″…  

How can this be?

POOR SELF-ESTEEM!

It’s as if a person can’t recognize the real value of what they’re accomplished.  So they point to the most average – mediocre – example they can find.  If you point this out to them – they are surprised!  ”Yeah, why did I use that as an example when this was so much better?”

The problem is that they really believe they are mediocre

So it doesn’t matter when someone points out the wonderful accomplishments they’ve made. They don’t “see it” where it really matters – in their subconscious mind.  The seat of their true belief.

That’s why they will automatically point to the mediocre – because that’s what they really believe they are.

So what happens to this kind of person?

They cheat themselves out of making a first impression really reflects their abilities.  They set themselves up to be relegated as “also-rans” and “amateurs”.  So they never get a chance to actualize – work up to their true potential.  They only reach for the mediocre opportunities and when they do attempt to “act on their real level of proficiency” – they sabotage themselves.

How do you recognize a tendency to self-sabotage?

When given the chance to “show off” they will always suddenly underperform – make stupid mistakes and then use excuses like:  ”Wow I don’t know why this happened” or “This is the first time this has happened” and so-on.

Which gives the further impression of incompetence and inexperience.

In the end, someone with a fraction of the experience and capability lands the opportunity – because they had nothing more than CONFIDENCE.  The “I can do that” attitude –  that the self-sabotage person with superior skills – can’t seem to adopt.

This is why the world is full of talented, highly skilled individuals who never get a chance to excel – while the truly mediocre – who are adept at packaging and promoting what little real competence they actually posses – get the “breaks”…and rule the world!

-Bob Baran

Every now and then I run into someone who claims they’ve been following the same principles I maintain are essential to living a life of self-fulfillment.

Yet this person is not  happy and fulfilled.

In a conversation this individual can pontificate with a broad understanding of how “things work” – drawing similar conclusions about the way the laws of success and principles work together that I may have.

But their personal life is painfully lacking the application of what they claim to know.

How is this possible?

There is a substantial difference between managing data – which is the intellectual ability to draw comparisons between similar ideas and remember facts – and actually having the real understanding of information which translates into “knowingness”.

Knowingness is to realize something – which transforms that knowledge into an integrated part of your consciousness. When you realize something it becomes a part of you.

When you only know something it’s just so much data you happen to be managing.

That’s why the world is full of people with credentials  - degrees and titles – that are little more than encyclopedias of information – without the ability to apply that information to anything more than a conversation.  They appear bright but quickly dim as you realize they really don’t understand the ramifications of  what they’re talking about.

When you truly realize something you absorb it holistically. 

The realization ignites a personal epiphany which causes a change in your perception of yourself and your life.  The epiphany is a recalculation of your attitudes, opinions and beliefs which takes place in a literal burst of light – which you perceive as “clarity”.

Managing and organizing data through the intellect never provides clarity.

Your personal computer can do a wonderful job of organizing the data you put into it – but is incapable of actually applying that data to the solution of a particular problem.

Stop telling yourself you “know something” when in fact you may only be manipulating the facts as so much data you’re carrying around inside your head.  If and when you really “know something” it will be fully reflected in your day-to-day life.

-Bob Baran

Each flavor/essence you have linked to also represents a particular pathway in your day-to-day life.  

As you may already know if you’ve been following this blog – a pathway is very much like a “channel” in which what you desire – can move toward you and you toward it.

Remember:  The time it takes to manifest a dream is always limited to the pathways which you have in place at any given time.

The more pathways – which are the relationships, situations and things –  and other links you already have in place – you create –  the faster you are able to manifest…

Back to the dream cake:

By focusing upon the unique flavor which represents your dream – instead of attempting to rationalize how it’s going to look and feel with the limiting aspects of your current intellect – you will literally “feel your way” into the set of circumstances where you dream is possible – much faster than any kind “planning/contriving/striving” will ever get you.

Embrace the flavor and you’ll become sensitized to other – relative – flavors

That’s the linking process

Since each dream is made of many flavors which come together to create the unique dream flavor – you will become aware of the individual flavors as the opportunity to link to them becomes available to you.  

When the linking process reaches a certain “critical mass” – an obvious course of action – combined  with your own natural confidence – makes itself known to you.

Manifesting your dream using this process makes the dream always seem just the next natural step in your journey – because it is!

-Bob Baran

Linking to your dreams is a powerful technique that “tunes” you into the zone – where the possibilities exist that can turn a dream into reality…

How do you begin the linking process?

What I’ve found is the very first step necessary is to identify the “essence” of what you want.

This is very different than what many “positive mental attitude” purveyors will tell you – they say get a very detailed image of what it is you want – which is fine if you want to buy a car – but highly limiting if your manifesting a dream.

Your dream has a unique emotional flavor associated with it

This is the key to linking – the essence I’m talking about is the very flavor of emotion which accompanies your thoughts about what your particular dream may be.  Emotion is a language of feeling – closely associated with what we experience with music.  Unlike music, which in it’s current popular form is limited to twelve notes – the flavors or individual “colors” of emotional feelings are unlimited…

Everything in your day-to-day life has a corresponding emotional flavor –  which you have already “linked” to. Think about your favorite something or other – like your favorite set of clothes or your favorite food –  the way you feel about these things are very different than the feelings you have about other things.– The feelings about your favorite things are in fact the essence of those things. You feel your favorite clothes before you see them or touch them because you are linked to their essence – which is that unique flavor of feeling associated with them.

The flavor of emotion you feel –  which is tied to things, situations and relationships in your life –  can be linked together with other “flavors” or essences to create an overall feeling which “tunes” you into the zone –  which will most easily manifest your dream.

Think of flavor linking like putting together the recipe for your favorite cake

A cake is made up of several different flavors.  Each ingredient has a flavor that can stand alone – but when combined together with other ingredients and their unique flavors – you create a overall flavor which is the sum of the parts – you have “linked” together to create the ultimate “cake flavor” you desire.

Making your dreams come true works the same way.

By linking the most desirable unique flavors together from experiences, things and relationships – you are able to create the unique “dream flavor” –  which is not limited by your analytical mind’s attempt to quantify and rationalize –  within it’s own limited understanding of what is possible… Focusing on the essence/flavor of your dream begins the process of linking to the other similar flavors within your day-to-day reality – which are the necessary ingredients for your dream (cake)…

Did you understand this explanation?

If you have any questions or comments you can always use the chat feature on my web page www.intentionalprosperity.com and I’ll be happy to have a conversation with you…

-Bob Baran

Did you have a good holiday season – I hope so because the party’s over!

Okay, so I wake up today to find that Bloomberg is reporting home sales were off again in December. Well that was expected but here’s the thing that really caught my attention:  Their poll of 60 “experts” underestimated the drop.  Let me put it this way –  It was almost 300% worse than they projected!

I’ve talked about this before

We keep hearing those three words: “Worse than expected” with every new report on the condition of the economy. If you’ll remember I said the economic situation doesn’t fit the current “models” for accurately projecting what’s coming.  When you hear a report that experts are predicting a 2% decline in some area of the economy next month – you should be interpreting it as a 4% to 6% decline – because that’s what’s been going on over the last few months – The projections of the experts have been 2 to 3 times lower than the actual amount in almost every case.

So here’s what I think may be going on:

Nobody want’s to admit how bad things are because nobody want’s to be called a “doom and gloomer”.  I’ve already had to defend myself on a couple of radio interviews from that label because of my work on the Intentional Self-Reliance Boot Camp… As if preparing for the unknown and doing what you can in order to survive and prosper is somehow being negative and expecting the worst…

Burying your head in the sand because the truth makes you feel uncomfortable is far more dangerous than simply facing reality and making sure you are in the best possible position to ride the storm…

How is that negative or “doom and gloom”?

Putting yourself in the best possible position to master the new opportunities which present themselves whenever a change to the status quo takes place – means you are adjusting your perception to include the reality of what may be possible at any given moment.  

This minimizes “surprises” and maximizes your ability to maintain control over your options.

If you’re afraid to see things as they really are – your fear will eventually turn you into a victim of what you refuse to accept as the current reality.

Only by understanding the current reality will you be able to create your own “parallel reality” which empowers your ability to find your passion and live a lifestyle that allows you to follow your dreams…

-Bob Baran