Back in May I thought I was done…

5 months later it’s been like a lifetime of experiences - and realizations from my life’s journey I need to share:

There are three distinct parts to you. This is the “triangle” of who you are at anytime. On the bottom left of the triangle is your rational/irrational mind. On the bottom right is your emotional mind. Above those two is the “Observer”- what cognitive therapists refer to as the “wise mind”…

You’ve experienced the Observer. It’s that part of you that “watches” the other two parts of you as they take over and react to life’s situations in a manner that the Observer is as surprised as those who may also be experiencing the same situation with you.

You know how it feels. It’s like you’re watching someone else react even though it’s you or I should say the lower left or right side of the three parts that comprise your whole. We’ve all been there. Some of us way too often… And the negative realities of our current day-to-day life echoes all those times we lost touch with our higher self - the Observer.

Your “personality” is a construct - a mental mechanism - which attempts to balance the lower left and lower right parts of yourself. In some of us - when we are out of balance the “personality” overrides the Observer and goes into autopilot - automatic reactions - triggered habits from years and decades past which may no longer apply to who we think we are but become how we deal with what faces us in the moment when the “stimulus” ignites and plays the recordings of those habits - habits we may not even be conscious of until the instant they “take over”.

Then we experience our worst fears…

And our true self - the Observer - watches our life dream suddenly shift into a nightmare - as our personality construct takes even greater control over how we react to the situation - as it justifies it’s reactions by rationalizing what it’s feeling… Usually fear.

If it continues out of control - we literally experience a personality change…

But here’s the thing…

Just below the surface - your true self - the Observer - is always waiting and ready to reassume control over your other parts. The thing is- you have to “let go” of personality control. Consciously disconnect yourself from the overriding “personality program” and allow your true self to re-acquire how you continue to react.

True self - the Observer - will break the power of the autopilot only when you consciously override the personality construct…

Remember: YOUR PERSONALITY IS NOT WHO YOU REALLY ARE!

How do you begin to re-acquire your true self? You first have to realize what’s going on. Your personality construct is going to fight you with a lot rationale about why it should continue down the path it’s chosen for you. It’s promise of greater happiness is usually a huge lie - because of all of the misery it’s creating for you along the way…

How do you know the difference between your personality construct ruling your life versus your true self - the Observer?

Your personality construct is constantly justifying itself. It will supply you with endless reasons, blaming, excuses - all designed to keep itself in control. It will also throw a lot of fearful feelings on you. Literally changing how you perceive reality in order to more fully support it’s assumptions. It will twist the truth without you realizing it.

On the other hand your true self - the Observer - never has to justify itself. It is always safe, calm and knowing. It never experiences fear, uncertainty and doubt - how can it? It’s your higher self.

Do you see the difference between the two?

In tomorrow’s blog post I’m going to explain how to re-acquire your true self when you are “stuck” in a reactionary personality construct.

I’m speaking from direct recent experience here…

-Bob Baran