In order to re-acquire your true self you have to examine what happened that caused your “construct” to rule your life…

For many of us it happens in one of two ways:

1. Over a long period of time we “harmonize” our attitudes, opinions and beliefs with those we surround ourselves with. I call this the “chameleon effect”. A chameleon literally disappears and becomes part of whatever it clings to. Have you ever watched a chameleon change it’s colors?

Too many individuals who are afraid to take a position in which they draw a “line in the sand” to maintain their personal truth – because they are afraid of “losing” friendship, love or the need for personal connection – begin to incrementally compromise their truth in order to “fit into” the situation or relationship they desire to maintain.

We all tend to do this to a lessor or greater degree. But when it’s done in a manner which causes you to “lose yourself” – you become a time-bomb! It’s just a matter of time before all those incremental compromises can no longer be sustained.

Let me make this clear:

Evolving and growing requires modification to what you consider to be your truth. But the modification is built upon the foundation of your truth – it is not a compromise of your truth… This is a very important difference.

When you’re growing – you evolve – when you compromise you shrink…

The net effect of compromising your truth over time is that you forget the essence of who you are – and begin to live your life through a series of attitudes, opinons and beleifs – which are now based on so many compromises of your truth. You are no longer “yourself”. You are literally a construction (construct) of all of these compromises you’ve made over time – which create so many filters by which you experience day-to-day life… Thus your “world-view” is in direct conflict with what you really believe.

I mentioned earlier that if you continue to compromise your truth you become a time-bomb. I say this because it’s just a matter of time before the suppressed anxiety and panic of your “truth” not being expressed will at some point cause you to over-react to some situation in your daily life…

The reaction will always appear to be way out of proportion to the event… Often times not having any apparent connection to the real issue at hand.

This is a natural powerful psychological warning system most of us ignore or are afraid to acknowledge. We throw all kinds of excuses and reasons to justify this over reaction.

The truth is it’s a powerful warning sign that you’re in trouble.

You should seek professional help to understand the cause and pull back from these over-reactions. Why? Because you’re reactions are going to continue to escalate! This is a normal process of the internal alarm – an emotional alarm – that we too often sweep under the carpet because we don’t understand what’s going on with ourselves…

If unchecked – it will one day overwhelm you and the situation you find yourself in. You will act in a manner which is totally out of proportion to the event and cause yourself and those around you great damage… Or even worse you may find yourself suffering from chronic illnesses stemming directly from the suppression of your natural emotional alarm system.

STOP BEING AFRAID TO FACE THE TRUTH ABOUT YOURSELF AND YOUR CURRENT SITUATION…

In tomorrows blog post I will examine the second reason why your construct overwhelms you and begins to rule your life. This is when the chameleon effect – all those little compromises you have been making – are buried and denied until the inner anxiety is finally triggered… And you find yourself doing and feeling things you never imagined you were capable of…

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran