Archive for the 'Behavior' Category

Published by Bob on 27 Apr 2011

When

When was the last time you were on fire?

How long has it been since you woke up with the lights on – feeling a purpose that has you jumping out of bed?

Remember how it was when you were 5 years old?

You met the day wide open… No drag on your energy. It was as if your life force spigot was turned on full blast.

We always look back and think “gee all that energy we used to have”…

What if you still had that much and more?

Now imagine all the years since you were five years old – all the layers of justification and rationalization about everything that you’ve piled on. Each attitude and opinion all requiring their own bit of energy to stay “alive”. Each one an entity either unleashing and amplifying your energy or leaching and draining your energy…

Who would have thought every single reason you have for whatever you happen to think – every single one uses a certain amount of energy to maintain itself.

No wonder you wake up tired and drained…

Read my article about why you feel like something is missing in your life. You are going to be surprised at how easy it may really be to bring that energy back into your life… And, don’t forget to watch the video at the end of the article.

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran

Published by Bob on 18 Apr 2011

Crossing The “Line of Insanity”

It’s a dangerous place you find yourself when the natural progression of
your journey into self-discovery takes you somewhere – you suddenly realize
- no one else seems to have been.

Is this the thin “line of insanity” everyone talks about?

Where your thinking, rationalizing and expecting has taken your life to a place you
didn’t expect. Ramifications you didn’t want to consider because the need to discover
where you were “going” became your primary focus.

Consider yourself lucky if you manage to find someone who actually understands how
you got to the new “place” even if they may not understand what the “place” is. At least
you have the potential of a conversation… Maybe some much needed validation.

Am I right? Am I wrong? Do I continue or back away?

Every artist has faced this when jumping off the cliff into the unknown
with his or her art. Going somewhere new without having any “ken of reference”
is both scary and thrilling… But, when it’s not music, paint or sculpting, et al,
and it’s your very experience of life – and you have no one to ask “what do
you think?”- because they have never thought about it…

The realization that you may be “the first” to begin the process of pondering (asking the question) – you find that the only person you can seek validation from is yourself…

Am I “nuts” because I can clearly “see” the natural evolution of a thought process
and contemplate the outcome before the “manifested thing, experience or relationship”
has even arrived? Or am I engaged in the very “process of manifestation” – by allowing
myself a choice of outcome and then expecting and rationalizing it into existence?

And what about the price?

In the end, one’s sanity may be solely judged by his or her ability to bridge the
space/time between fantasy and reality – with manifestation…

To what end?

Maybe the experience of life is simply for us to prove the validity of the fantasy as well as prove the “process of manifestation”… Maybe anything really is possible and once you “get it” you don’t have to prove it anymore.

Until then you’re stuck.

If you feel like something’s missing in your life you must read my article and watch my video “Something Is Missing”.

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

Bob Baran

Published by Bob on 13 Apr 2011

When Feelings Trigger Nightmares

A good friend of mine just related a disturbing fact:

She was overcome with nightmares of a past abusive experience when recently faced with a decision to move forward in an area of personal growth.

My first reaction when she shared this information with me was to fire her therapist!

From my perspective and in my opinion, my friend has been kept in a psycho-analytical box that has done little to neutralize the “emotional resonance” of a traumatic experience going back over 40 years. And, my friend has been in “therapy” for many, many years…

Layers of rationale and justification have been created as a reaction to the event

The subsequent “therapy” has continued to build upon that mountain of rationale – rather than providing her with a methodology for adjusting and neutralizing the emotional impact of the event.

In other words, my friend has spent years in a course of therapy that has attempted to adjust her to living with the event as opposed to turning the event into a non-emotionally charged memory – breaking the “loop” of triggered reaction.

IE: An experience that can be “viewed” without emotion.

Which is what we ultimately categorize as a “normal memory”. It may not be a pleasant memory but it doesn’t cause trauma when “viewed” 40 years later. And, it doesn’t “haunt” our ability to make rational choices in our day-to-day life.

In the Intentional Prosperity System I spend a great deal of time explaining the phenomenon of “emotional ghosts” – the term I use for unresolved emotional memories – and how the “broad stroke of unresolved emotional memory” can be easily triggered by new situations which have nothing more in common with the traumatic memory than a “hint” of a similar “emotional flavor”…

The “triggering mechanism” is highly exaggerated in an individual who suffers from post traumatic stress disorder.

Think of a “radar” that is set to such a high sensitivity that a bird is “seen” as an incoming enemy missile with a nuclear warhead. That’s how even the “hint” of emotional resonance associated with a past traumatic event is processed and reacted to by someone with P.S.T.D.. Going to a full scale reaction of “10″ (on a scale of 1-10) when the reality of the situation would only justify a “1″ is typical. A bit of caution or a question – not a fight or flight response.

The net result of years of avoiding anything which triggers a “10 reaction” has created a box which my friend who is obviously very unhappy with several aspects of the life her 40 years of avoidance has created.

With so many well established emotion- neutralizing techniques available

-many which are covered in depth in the Intentional Prosperity System – it is painful to see a friend continue to suffer a life experience that comes short of real joy and fulfillment – because of a lack of understanding why emotional triggering takes place and how to minimize and “remove” the unresolved emotional trauma which continues to impact my friend’s life.

Emotional triggering that has over time become a highly rationalized and justified habit.

Avoiding anything that even remotely feels like the “resonance” of the original trauma – leaves one stuck in a reactive ego/personality and robs one from exploring the imagination and possibilities using discernment as the ultimate determination of “yes or no”.

For what it’s worth I’m a proponent of Cognitive Therapy. But, as in anything, you’ve got to find someone who really knows what they’re doing…

Too many of us know that our lives are missing something. I have an article and a video that focuses on why we feel that way and what we can do about it. Is something missing in your life?

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran

Published by Bob on 29 Jan 2011

Maybe You Love Your Misery?

What if you really do love your misery?

I hear so many excuses for tolerating unhappiness. I’ve had
people weeping as they tell me about the stress of their job or
the confusion of their relationship…

Then without missing a beat, tell me they’re happy!

What was that definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over
and over expecting a different result…

I’m astonished that so many who can easily spout positive “new age”
cliches are actually living lives of “quite desperation”. And, refuse to
admit the obvious:

You’re not really happy.

You’re not happy in your marriages, relationships, your job and who
knows what else… Yet you continue to use your intellect and your
power to rationalize anything to justify your misery.

And it’s so obvious!

It’s all that after hours self-medicating your doing. Running away, shifting
your attention temporarily from the reality you don’t want to face.

But it catches up with you. Just look in the mirror. Look at your health.

Look at how fast time is passing you by and you can’t point to anything
really significant or fulfilling you’ve done in a long time… You know what I mean?

You are paying a physical and emotional price for avoiding the reality
of your life.

A chemically-altered state is not the road to happiness.

If you and your current circle of friends are all doing the same thing
you’ll never notice it… Until it blows up on you one day.

There is a solution and it’s really simple:

Begin an incremental journey into rediscovering your true self. Step by step, bit
by bit. You “remember” what real joy is – how it doesn’t require any “stimulation”
rationalization or artificially altered consciousness…

The steps you take are simple, easy and natural. Nothing that causes an upheaval
in your life but is more like an easy, natural evolution. An evolution that is illuminated by
how you feel – the joy you feel.

It only requires you paying attention to the voice deep inside you that keeps nudging
you back to yourself…

The voice that only speaks the language of feeling.

The same feeling you’ve been trying to find as you run harder and harder working at
having a good time – that is so temporary and fleeting… And, unfulfilling.

There’s a better and simpler way of getting back to that innocent child like place of joy
you know you really want… It’s remembering the simple things that bring real joy…

I’ve laid out a few starting steps I call “5 Steps To Joy”

Three videos I offer to you without cost or obligation. Just go to www.intentionalprosperity.com
and you’ll see “Love Your Life?” on top of a video player…

Watch the video and if you feel like what I’m saying makes sense
please use the form below the player and get the three free videos sent to you…

Here’s the thing.

Don’t wait like I did until a traumatic event changes your life forever.
It’s so much easier when you’re not “forced” to change… To have to learn
the hard way how to get back to your joy.

You can begin now taking the path of least resistance using an easy to understand
and apply formula that will bring real extended joy back into your life. And, I’m talking
about the natural high kind of joy you know is the right place for you…

Don’t waste anymore time justifying not being happy

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran

Published by Bob on 23 Jan 2011

Reverse Engineering: Darkness Into Joy

After releasing my new free “5 Steps To Joy” videos last week I found myself “stumbling” over the realization that I had taken my direct experience and reverse engineered a portion of my life…

The formula which I’ve broken down into easy to understand and implement “steps” are not some kind of theory or altruistic hopeful assumptions.

No, I paid a serious price of heartbreak and subsequent introspection to arrive at such a simple and obvious set of steps to shift yourself into extended periods of Joy.

You see, the process I lay out in the videos is the very same process you can unwittingly use to create fear, uncertainty and doubt in your life. Most of us do, to lessor or greater degrees without realizing what’s going on…

We often experience the result of that “process” as our lives seeming to stay the same.

Stuck in some kind of rut – or worse, as was my in may case – become my own worst enemy and bring darkness into my life…

And one day you crash. Your world falls apart around you.

Then you have to ask the hard questions:

Beginning with: “What if this was all my fault?”…

For me this past year and a half was all about facing that question. My transformation from blaming – to accepting full responsibility was painful and remarkably healing and unleashing at the same time.

The wonderful but emotionally costly realization was seeing how I had chosen to use “the process” to reinforce an outcome – I thought I didn’t want. Yet had to experience in order to finally shatter – a place of rationalization – which brought down the “life” I thought I really wanted…

Yes, I wanted it but I had not yet taken the incremental steps of self-growth necessary to sustain it – and continue to believe in it…

That was the lesson – I stopped believing – and started blaming.

I took a beautiful magical dream – and started doubting it. Because I failed to recognize the simple steps that bring joy could also bring darkness… And I didn’t pay attention to life’s most profound of all lesson’s:

Your life experience is always a matter of what you believe and expect.

Whether you are conscious of what you ultimately believe (which is measured in taking personal responsibility) or what you unconsciously believe – which can be measured in how much you blame everything and everybody for your day-to-day reality.

You see, the “process” is the same. The sequence, of the “recipe” never changes. Only the ingredients you choose – which determine the flavor of the cake – is a matter of your free will…

It can be a “cake of joy” or a “cake of unhappiness” – either way it’s always going to be some kind of cake… And that’s the stunning realization that made it possible for me to create the “5 Steps To Joy”…

So I humbly offer to you something I paid a price beyond any valuation imaginable to understand – finally – the profound power of of belief…

You can get the “5 Steps To Joy” free here: www.intentionalprosperity.com

Please, don’t waste any more time being unhappy…

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran

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