The Best Years of Your Life… Now!

The last post shocked some of you? GOOD!

The greatest single barrier to real permanent change is your ego.

It doesn’t want to change anything. It will rationalize everything in order to maintain status quo. That’s it’s job. Your ego is actually like a piece of software with a single mission:

Preserve, support and rationalize whatever “truth” is currently held as your reality by your unconscious.

This means your intellect, your attitudes, opinions and beliefs are all orchestrated by your ego to do nothing more than filter your perception of life in a manner which is in perfect resonance with your unconscious belief.

Get that?

Your ego and your personality is not who you really are.

They are subject to instantaneous change yet designed to resist and avoid any change. Sounds like a dichotomy doesn’t it? But, then, all real truth is a dichotomy: Both polar extremes are equally true and exist simultaneously.

When you can “see” the validity of the polar opposites – that ability is how you measure enlightenment.

Okay, back to the “change thing”…

Up to now in these posts I’ve been discussing the “outer” approach to creating change. It’s what we’ve all been conditioned to accept as the “best” process – you know, change what you think, etc. Sure it works, but it can take weeks, months and years of “work” – and you can still fall right back to where you started with the right “trigger”.

So it’s time to start talking about real permanent change that doesn’t require a jolt of emotional trauma to get you started…

In the next post I’m going to discuss what I’ve learned about real permanent change – what it really is and how you make it happen.

Bob Baran
Author of Intentional Prosperity™
Creator of the “Quantum-Hypnotics™” System
for permanent dramatic change.

Emotional trauma is the hard part…

Why is it we are wired to keep going until we finally hit the wall – until we can’t go any farther? Even when those around us scream, beg and cajole. We deny, rationalize, avoid, argue and then the inevitable happens.

BAM!

There’s a reason why mental health professionals maintain real change can only take place as the result of “emotional trauma”. A sudden collapse of the ego/personality creating an opening… This is where the critical shift in trajectory can take hold – before the ego/personality re-justifies and rationalizes it’s way back to where it was before you hit the wall…

Let me state emphatically: Real dramatic permanent change does not require emotional trauma. It’s actually the worst possible time to bring real change – because your too busy shoring up the anxious confusion with peace seeking band-aids…

However, these are the moments where your life arrives at a crossroads – with you carrying a lot of emotional baggage – forcing you to suddenly drop that baggage.

Hence the emotional trauma. Leaving you feeling everything you’ve been carrying has suddenly “slipped away” – as you stand there in disbelief.

Which leads me to this:

Those instances of emotional trauma – the life changing moments where nothing is the same anymore – is a gift. Because it can be your “day one” of the process of real permanent change.

Ironically, that permanent change won’t actually take place until the end of your “grieving process” – as long as you deal honestly with yourself during the steps of your grief.

The key to this is making a decision not to be the “victim”. And, repeating what I said in the last posting – you must have the courage to accept full responsibility for everything that happened. No matter how wrong that feels.

Think of this personal accountability as a one-time “bitter pill” that will open the door to you experiencing real joy and fulfillment.

Sadly, it’s a pill most won’t consider swallowing. Instead they’re already creating the rationale which leads directly into the next emotional trauma in their life… As predictable as the sun rising tomorrow morning.

So – Choice #1: Are you ready to swallow the pill?

Or will you wait until the next big life changing catastrophe ? If you’re too busy blaming people, places and things for your “life changing moment” – you’re not yet ready for the cure.

It’s okay you’ve got the rest of your life. Trust me, you’ll get another chance – and another one, and another one…

Bob Baran
Author of Intentional Prosperity™
Creator of the “Quantum-Hypnotics™” System
for permanent dramatic change.

It’s a dangerous place you find yourself when the natural progression of
your journey into self-discovery takes you somewhere – you suddenly realize
- no one else seems to have been.

Is this the thin “line of insanity” everyone talks about?

Where your thinking, rationalizing and expecting has taken your life to a place you
didn’t expect. Ramifications you didn’t want to consider because the need to discover
where you were “going” became your primary focus.

Consider yourself lucky if you manage to find someone who actually understands how
you got to the new “place” even if they may not understand what the “place” is. At least
you have the potential of a conversation… Maybe some much needed validation.

Am I right? Am I wrong? Do I continue or back away?

Every artist has faced this when jumping off the cliff into the unknown
with his or her art. Going somewhere new without having any “ken of reference”
is both scary and thrilling… But, when it’s not music, paint or sculpting, et al,
and it’s your very experience of life – and you have no one to ask “what do
you think?”- because they have never thought about it…

The realization that you may be “the first” to begin the process of pondering (asking the question) – you find that the only person you can seek validation from is yourself…

Am I “nuts” because I can clearly “see” the natural evolution of a thought process
and contemplate the outcome before the “manifested thing, experience or relationship”
has even arrived? Or am I engaged in the very “process of manifestation” – by allowing
myself a choice of outcome and then expecting and rationalizing it into existence?

And what about the price?

In the end, one’s sanity may be solely judged by his or her ability to bridge the
space/time between fantasy and reality – with manifestation…

To what end?

Maybe the experience of life is simply for us to prove the validity of the fantasy as well as prove the “process of manifestation”… Maybe anything really is possible and once you “get it” you don’t have to prove it anymore.

Until then you’re stuck.

If you feel like something’s missing in your life you must read my article and watch my video “Something Is Missing”.

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

Bob Baran

Beware of the misunderstood and potentially dangerous state of “acceptance”.

When you “accept” something the Universe maintains it in your reality. The Universe is always working as a tool of your desire. If you choose to “accept” what you don’t want – it translates into what you desire! Sounds crazy but that’s how it works folks!

The Universe is always responding to where you place your attention. It its designed to translate your attention into your desire to experience whatever it is you are placing your attention on. It does not differentiate between what you “want or don’t want” – as far as “it’s” concerned you want everything you put your attention on – Got that?

This is a part of the “LIFE PROCESSING RECIPE” that is fixed.

The Universe always maintains the reality of whatever you’re acknowledging. Anything you put your attention on you are acknowledging and accepting as your reality.

That’s why the cliche: “Accept those things you can’t change” – is insane!

Never “accept or allow” as your reality what you think you can’t change. Instead, shift you’re attention away to what you currently believe you can change. Over time what you thought you couldn’t change (and those who don’t understand the Law of Attraction would tell you to “accept”) must also change along with the ongoing shift in your reality…

My own example:

A few years ago I lived in the downtown area of Helena, MT. I had a seperate buiding with a soundproofed recording studio in it. I’d shut the door and it was quite. However my house next door was like any other house in the neighborhood. And being downtown it was almost a nightly ritual to hear a cop car siren or ambulance at some point in the middle of the night…

Although I couldn’t change that noise I refused to accept it!

Instead I “intended” that one day I would live in a place where it was quiet. Quiet like the experience I had in my recoding studio. I never “accepted or allowed” what I didn’t like – the noise in the middle of the night as my permanent reality. Do you “see” what I’m saying here?

I didn’t wake up pissed off every night when the siren woke me up… I just reinforced that soon this would never again be an issue… And imagined a wonderfully quite place to sleep in peace.

I think I’ve heard one siren in the last two years in this wonderful quite place I’ve lived in for the last decade.

NEVER ACCEPT WHAT YOU CAN’T CHANGE!

Shift your attention to those things and activities which will create the reality you want. Never reinforce by accepting or allowing what “appears” to be something you can’t change. Maybe you can’t change “it” but you absolutely can change your reality so “it” is no longer part of your new reality….!

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran

The realization there would never be another chance for a Beatles reunion was the second shock we felt the day we learned John Lennon was gone.

We lost some kind of magic.

A certain anything is possible hopefulness about the future. We all crossed a
line together that day. An important part of our collective youth would become frozen in time.

He was never going to live long enough to disappoint any of us.

We’ll always look back remembering John was on a creative life journey. He didn’t care what anybody thought except Yoko, his Muse.

We loved what he did because we knew his heart – because he knew our heart.

Thirty years in that zone. It would have been astonishing to watch what happened – how he evolved.

So how does this happen?

What director of a life movie says “Time for a hiccup”…?

Here comes the defining scene we all dreaded – on some deep level – that would demarcate us into adulhood. In a surreal instant we lost someone who could speak to the tender gentle childlike part of us – reminding us about hope and joy.

With ear worms we loved to feed our minds to.

We always took time to listen what he brought us next – a communal indulgence of little time-outs of happy.

It’s hard to believe a twenty something with a funny haircut and collarless suit jacket – who landed in New York only 16 years before – was going to impact us in so many ways. He still is…

Did you know all the Beatles music has been remastered and is available for download at itunes?

I’ll bet you they’re going to sell a lot of music today.

“Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeaaaaaaaah…”

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran