The Best Years of Your Life… Now!

What if you really do love your misery?

I hear so many excuses for tolerating unhappiness. I’ve had
people weeping as they tell me about the stress of their job or
the confusion of their relationship…

Then without missing a beat, tell me they’re happy!

What was that definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over
and over expecting a different result…

I’m astonished that so many who can easily spout positive “new age”
cliches are actually living lives of “quite desperation”. And, refuse to
admit the obvious:

You’re not really happy.

You’re not happy in your marriages, relationships, your job and who
knows what else… Yet you continue to use your intellect and your
power to rationalize anything to justify your misery.

And it’s so obvious!

It’s all that after hours self-medicating your doing. Running away, shifting
your attention temporarily from the reality you don’t want to face.

But it catches up with you. Just look in the mirror. Look at your health.

Look at how fast time is passing you by and you can’t point to anything
really significant or fulfilling you’ve done in a long time… You know what I mean?

You are paying a physical and emotional price for avoiding the reality
of your life.

A chemically-altered state is not the road to happiness.

If you and your current circle of friends are all doing the same thing
you’ll never notice it… Until it blows up on you one day.

There is a solution and it’s really simple:

Begin an incremental journey into rediscovering your true self. Step by step, bit
by bit. You “remember” what real joy is – how it doesn’t require any “stimulation”
rationalization or artificially altered consciousness…

The steps you take are simple, easy and natural. Nothing that causes an upheaval
in your life but is more like an easy, natural evolution. An evolution that is illuminated by
how you feel – the joy you feel.

It only requires you paying attention to the voice deep inside you that keeps nudging
you back to yourself…

The voice that only speaks the language of feeling.

The same feeling you’ve been trying to find as you run harder and harder working at
having a good time – that is so temporary and fleeting… And, unfulfilling.

There’s a better and simpler way of getting back to that innocent child like place of joy
you know you really want… It’s remembering the simple things that bring real joy…

I’ve laid out a few starting steps I call “5 Steps To Joy”

Three videos I offer to you without cost or obligation. Just go to www.intentionalprosperity.com
and you’ll see “Love Your Life?” on top of a video player…

Watch the video and if you feel like what I’m saying makes sense
please use the form below the player and get the three free videos sent to you…

Here’s the thing.

Don’t wait like I did until a traumatic event changes your life forever.
It’s so much easier when you’re not “forced” to change… To have to learn
the hard way how to get back to your joy.

You can begin now taking the path of least resistance using an easy to understand
and apply formula that will bring real extended joy back into your life. And, I’m talking
about the natural high kind of joy you know is the right place for you…

Don’t waste anymore time justifying not being happy

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran

After releasing my new free “5 Steps To Joy” videos last week I found myself “stumbling” over the realization that I had taken my direct experience and reverse engineered a portion of my life…

The formula which I’ve broken down into easy to understand and implement “steps” are not some kind of theory or altruistic hopeful assumptions.

No, I paid a serious price of heartbreak and subsequent introspection to arrive at such a simple and obvious set of steps to shift yourself into extended periods of Joy.

You see, the process I lay out in the videos is the very same process you can unwittingly use to create fear, uncertainty and doubt in your life. Most of us do, to lessor or greater degrees without realizing what’s going on…

We often experience the result of that “process” as our lives seeming to stay the same.

Stuck in some kind of rut – or worse, as was my in may case – become my own worst enemy and bring darkness into my life…

And one day you crash. Your world falls apart around you.

Then you have to ask the hard questions:

Beginning with: “What if this was all my fault?”…

For me this past year and a half was all about facing that question. My transformation from blaming – to accepting full responsibility was painful and remarkably healing and unleashing at the same time.

The wonderful but emotionally costly realization was seeing how I had chosen to use “the process” to reinforce an outcome – I thought I didn’t want. Yet had to experience in order to finally shatter – a place of rationalization – which brought down the “life” I thought I really wanted…

Yes, I wanted it but I had not yet taken the incremental steps of self-growth necessary to sustain it – and continue to believe in it…

That was the lesson – I stopped believing – and started blaming.

I took a beautiful magical dream – and started doubting it. Because I failed to recognize the simple steps that bring joy could also bring darkness… And I didn’t pay attention to life’s most profound of all lesson’s:

Your life experience is always a matter of what you believe and expect.

Whether you are conscious of what you ultimately believe (which is measured in taking personal responsibility) or what you unconsciously believe – which can be measured in how much you blame everything and everybody for your day-to-day reality.

You see, the “process” is the same. The sequence, of the “recipe” never changes. Only the ingredients you choose – which determine the flavor of the cake – is a matter of your free will…

It can be a “cake of joy” or a “cake of unhappiness” – either way it’s always going to be some kind of cake… And that’s the stunning realization that made it possible for me to create the “5 Steps To Joy”…

So I humbly offer to you something I paid a price beyond any valuation imaginable to understand – finally – the profound power of of belief…

You can get the “5 Steps To Joy” free here: www.intentionalprosperity.com

Please, don’t waste any more time being unhappy…

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran

On the other hand you can choose real healing:

For some, this will be the more emotionally painful route. But, and this is important – facing the truth about how your ego/personality had become the “ruler and rationalizer” of your life – and taking personal responsibility for those actions – is the quickest path to clearing away – once and for all – misplaced efforts and questionable assumptions that have conspired over time to rob you of your joy.

Plowing through that mountain of rationale and getting your ego/personality back to it’s subservient role (to your Higher Self) is a one-time pain…

You don’t have to keep going through it again and again

Like you would if you choose to deny… Denial is nothing more than pain deferred. Not pain dissolved.

Remember:

Denying and avoiding now only sets you up for the next much more painful emotional experience. Yeah, it keeps getting worse until it finally gets your attention…

Consciously choosing to be the victim as your preferred “healing methodology” is not really healing at all. Just rebuilding your ego.

It’s the emotional equivalent of “self medication”.

Personal responsibility (no matter how unjustified it feels) is a one-time clearing, learning and growing experience. For many, accepting full responsibility is fraught with the feeling that you are betraying yourself (which is true from the standpoint of your ego).

However, your true self/higher self- which requires no rationalization for its’ existence (as does the ego) – is fully capable of accepting responsibility for the creation of it’s life experience…

The contrast between joy and pain

…is the ultimate lesson waiting to reveal itself in every life experience when you’re finally willing to consider – “what if I really did set all this up?”

You’ll begin a remarkable journey asking yourself the hard questions – and fearlessly accepting the truth about yourself.

You see, most people avoid this kind of ruthlessly honest introspection throughout their life. They never expunge their false notions because their ego keeps a tight lid on what they will even consider.

That’s why most are doomed to repeat the same emotional journey- no matter how different the “stage, players or script” happens to be next time around.

It’s called being stuck.

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran

Healing and recovering from emotional trauma – the end of a relationship, thing or experience – doesn’t have guidelines

You can’t check your progress against some kind of accepted norm.

When emotional trauma causes the ego to collapse – if allowed to, the ego goes into self defense mode. Doing everything it can to maintain reality – even though a significant change has taken place.

The so-called steps of grieving aside – when it comes to healing from the breakup of a relationship – the degree of connection and how much you compromised on your “truth” in order to maintain the relationship – suddenly becomes a very painful – loud – reminder of one overwhelming and once again self evident truth…

Your “relationship reality” and who you became is what you talked yourself into in order to maintain the relationship.

You rationalized, compromised and became what you believed was necessary to continue the relationship. You made so many small “adjustments and compromises” over time – you would never recognize yourself – if you could “see” who you were at the peak of that relationship experience…

Now here’s the thing:

You can take a quick fix on the emotional pain by pointing a finger at the one who “betrayed” you – which from the ego’s standpoint would of course always be the “other” person in the relationship.

Then allow your ego to “run amok” – as it attempts to avoid pain -and you will invariably walk away from the experience convinced you were the victim… And, you’ll feel temporary relief.

“Hey, it wasn’t my fault because…”

Unfortunately, when you’re the victim no growth takes place. Because a victim absolves his or her self from personal responsibility.

(Obviously in some situations there really are victims – but I’m not talking about that – so let’s not go there now)

Denial of personal responsibility is just “pain deferred”.

I’m talking about the one-time pain of untangling your layers of justification – (maybe not so painful really) and recognizing that you made decisions all along – whatever the dynamics of the situation may have been – which led to the experience you had.

And, your decision to consciously choose to vindicate yourself by wearing the mantle of “victim” – means in reality – you are just setting yourself up for yet another experience where you once again empower yourself to become the victim.

Tomorrow: Part Two: Real Healing

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran

What I’m about to tell you just happened to me Friday night…

I had just dropped off my friend at his apartment after fun night of meeting people and having many great conversations. It was almost 1:00 am and his last words were:

“Be careful it’s really slippery out here”.

Was it ever! He lived in my old neighborhood on Logan St., in Helena, MT. Ironically right across the street from my old house and the recording studio my former wife and I had converted into Condo’s several years ago.

I wasn’t worried. I’ve got serious snow tires: Michelin “x-ice” cause, this is Montana and you do what you got to do to keep mobile – and I live about 15 miles or so out of town….

Im a really careful driver but what happened next is astonishing!

As I’m heading out of town – going less than the speed limit on a four laner with a concrete median dividing it into two lanes of opposing traffic – and with the city band shell and swimming pool to my right I feel the rear end of my car slip….

Wow, the road was sheer black ice…

I corrected and the car realigned itself. I was slowing down and suddenly – it was like the rear end of the car had it’s own mind and started to “go faster” than the front end of my car…

The car was out of control and started to spin to my right!

At this point a gas station was now on my right side and the front of my car was pointing at the pumps – I was unable to stop my four thousand pound rear-drive Lexus – and this lead sled was now spinning out of control at almost 35 miles per hour!

My first reaction was “WTF!”

I consciously relaxed into the experience and instinctively reacted. I heaved a quick sigh of relief as the front end continued spinning beyond the gas station.

Okay, no explosion! But it wasn’t over as the inertia of the spinning car was about to hit the raised center median – with about an eight inch curb!

Either the car was going to flip from a side impact or the car was going to continue careening over the other two lanes and off the other side of the road somewhere.

I never doubted I was going to be okay and I let the “experience play out”… What happened next I can’t explain. It still doesn’t make sense to me from a logical standpoint.

I know I hit the median…

The next thing I knew I was standing still on the other side of the median which was the left hand turning lane – my car facing in the right direction…

I was stunned.

The car was going at least 35 mph (it was a downhill grade)
and was out of control… But there I was – as if nothing had happened.

My first reaction was a verbal “Thank you” – then I told my car how grateful I was for it protecting me that way…

I’ve always told my car how wonderful it is…

I saw the headlights of a car approaching in my rear-view mirror so I simply put my left turn signal on and made the left turn about 50 feet ahead and proceed cautiously home…

That was the first (oncoming) traffic to appear… From their point of view I was just somebody making a normal left hand turn….

I believe something beyond a rational explanation had taken place.

A four thousand pound object going 35 mph cannot come to a complete stop in two or three feet. But that’s exactly what happened.

And what are the odds it would be standing still – facing the right direction perfectly aligned with the curb in a left turn lane?

Remember: The car was spinning to the right – if it was spinning to the left it might make sense ending up in the right direction on the other side of the median – and by the way, the left turn lane was also covered in black ice. With no (oncoming) traffic until I was ready to proceed.

None of this is a coincidence… And, no “magic bullet” theory can explain this away.

A few weeks ago, I began consciously intending, knowing and accepting that “the Universe has my back”… That I am protected.

This is only one of a series of inexplicable experiences I’ve had since I chose to accept this belief as my day-to-day reality…

For me this was another instance of proof!

Another indication that my life was going to continue to work itself out for the best. As it has been.

I could be in the hospital right now or worse – and my car could have been totaled…. A head-on crash with another car.

But, there was absolutely no body damage – not even the front-end going out of alignment. No trauma to my car and No trauma to me…

Just an incredible, humbling reminder I’m so grateful for…

That the Universe has my back! I am protected. Things will continue to work out in my life – better than I expected.

The Law of Intentional Expectancy is real.

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran