The Best Years of Your Life… Now!

Someone I know very well just told me his Doctor said he has an incurable brain tumor.

I was stunned, saddened and felt helpless when I heard this.

He is such a remarkable man. One of the few true renaissance men I’ve ever known. He’s mastered so many ways of expressing himself – an incredible intellect and a truly wise man… The real deal.

When I asked him how he felt, I was surprised at what he said:

“I’m so relieved and grateful and happy to be alive!” Of course I was shocked by his answer so I asked him to please explain…

He said the last few years he had been living a nightmare…

The Doctor explained that his tumor had been slowly growing over many years in an area of his brain neurologists thought had something to do with triggering the flight or fight response. The part of you that experiences the sensation of panic.

My friend said he was actually relieved because he knew something wasn’t right for a long time…

It wasn’t until his symptoms had recently progressed to the point of being obvious to his Doctor -strange metallic taste in his mouth and other anomalies – he thought that somehow he had a psychological problem that was haunting his life… And, destroying everything he cared about as he helplessly watched things spin out of control.

The worst was with his former wife.

Time after time he said he told her something wasn’t right. Many times he would try to tell her as he was experiencing the profound panic his tumor was causing him. He went on to say that her reaction was always strangely passive… Like she just didn’t “get it”.

“Maybe because of her own deep seated emotional trauma she thought I was somehow pointing a finger at her or attacking her… When I was literally pleading for help – I didn’t understand why I was feeling and acting the way I was acting – I remember telling her that so many times too…

One day she left and never came back… What I came to realize is that if she had really loved and believed in the real me – she wouldn’t have thrown me away. She would have known in her heart – “hey something is wrong – this isn’t the man I know and love”… And, maybe we could have understood at a much earlier point in time that there was a physical thing going on.

That’s why I’m relieved…”

He was relieved to finally know that there was a physical cause for his reactions.

When I asked him about his future – what the prognosis was – he said:

“I have a few weeks according to my Doctor”. When he said that – I could barely swallow.

“But, let me tell you what I believe and know: I don’t have a tumor. I was given a message in the form of a physical manifestation that I have the power to dissolve… I know this.”

I knew exactly what he was talking about.

He is a practitioner of the Law of Attraction and has a deep knowingness about what he believes is really possible.

“I sleep better, I’m calmer and happier – and when I saw the Doctor last week he gave me even more time because he said the progression of the tumor has seemed to stop… He was puzzled, couldn’t explain it – I just smiled”.

When he said that we both laughed – “I get it – it’s already working isn’t it”? …I said.

“Of course, there isn’t any medicine and they can’t operate – but something’s changing already.”

I can see it now – he’s gonna write a book and get on “Oprah” or something. He hasn’t told anyone about this except me.

“The last thing I want is people sending me some kind of pity vibe – and I’m not sure I’ll ever talk about this after it’s behind me. Maybe this is just some kind of personal test of how much I really believe what I believe. I’m focused on how incredible I feel and how vibrant and healthy my body is. I consciously don’t consider any other possible outcome.”

I was floored.

All the stupid things you can waste time and energy on. And my good friend shows me what “knowingness” really is. What real belief is. Not some cliche that makes you sound evolved – but what you accept as reality when you’re all alone facing life and death.

That’s when you see the truth of who you know you are

Maybe in some strange way – it was all about getting that shallow woman who really didn’t believe in him – out of his life. I’ll have to bring that up to him the next time I talk to him. When I did, you know what his answer was?

“Hey, the Universe always has your back!”

What he said suddenly jolted me awake… My eyes opened with a big smile on my face and joy in my heart. The damn metallic taste…

I know 2011 is going to be an incredible year!…

I’m so happy to be alive.

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran

“What you need will always show up in your life”…

I remember hearing that all those years ago from someone I had on a pedestal. You know, bigger than life. Omniscient, omnipresent – the way you feel when you “fall in love” with a person or what they represent.

After the fall ( yeah, nobody can maintain their balance on a pedestal for too long) the simple admonishment about what I needed showing up in my life haunted me for years…

You see, I had to let go of the personality that brought me the message and see the truth in the message. It’s funny, how we can bias ourselves to profound truth because we judge the source rather than the message itself.

As if the “perfection” of the message must also be evident in the messenger to have any validity. In other words, if my ego judged the messenger to be less capable, honest, enlightened or whatever – I would dismiss the deeper truth of the message. Toss the baby out with the bath water.

Let’s skip ahead here…

As I’ve been moving through my personal transformation over the past months I’ve been re-aquiring certain “truths” that keep calling attention to themselves. One in particular is obviously about what you need showing in your life…

What I’m going to say now surprises even me because of how long it’s taken me to “get this”:

The only reason you don’t recognize what you “need” has come into your life is because you have trained yourself to have “expectations” of what you “need” coming to you in a certain “package” – a form you have already limited to your predetermined criteria.

In other words, if it isn’t wrapped with the color of ribbon you expect – you’ll never
recognize it for the “gift” that it really is…

In fact you’ll never see it as it moves so clearly into your life – because you have already filtered it out of your ken of reference.

This always happens when your expectations are ego based…

It never happens when you are operating from your higher self. Remember, higher self is unlimited possibilities – without the need to rationalize. Ego is pure rationalization – and the limiting life filter that brings along with it…

A recent example – in my life – put this into perspective for me

Over the past few weeks I had recognized I needed information, inspiration and direction in a few areas of my life… One in particular:

I wanted to reach my ideal weight and felt my ongoing “process” had become “stuck”…

So about a week ago I get this email from an internet marketer. (I get lots of ‘em)… For some reason a book he was talking about resonated with me. It didn’t resonate from a logical place – just a pure feeling, intuitive kind of thing…

So I clicked on Amazon and bought a copy. I spent the last couple of days reading it.

Guess what?

Not only did I “flip my internal weight loss switch” but to my amazement issues not connected to weight loss were also examined in great detail in the book – the very issues that I was seeking some kind of clarity…

Never in a million years would my intellect and experience cause me to look for answers in this particular book! But there they were – and left me astonished, humbled and yes, very grateful…

But it really raises a bigger question

How many times has exactly what you want and need appeared in your life? Time and time again. You miss it because of the perspective you choose to experience life from (your ego).

How often have you cheated yourself out of the joy and fulfillment you really want and need?

Suddenly, the phrase: Getting out of your own way – has a much more profound overtone
than just some cliche…

At least it does for me.

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran

The realization there would never be another chance for a Beatles reunion was the second shock we felt the day we learned John Lennon was gone.

We lost some kind of magic.

A certain anything is possible hopefulness about the future. We all crossed a
line together that day. An important part of our collective youth would become frozen in time.

He was never going to live long enough to disappoint any of us.

We’ll always look back remembering John was on a creative life journey. He didn’t care what anybody thought except Yoko, his Muse.

We loved what he did because we knew his heart – because he knew our heart.

Thirty years in that zone. It would have been astonishing to watch what happened – how he evolved.

So how does this happen?

What director of a life movie says “Time for a hiccup”…?

Here comes the defining scene we all dreaded – on some deep level – that would demarcate us into adulhood. In a surreal instant we lost someone who could speak to the tender gentle childlike part of us – reminding us about hope and joy.

With ear worms we loved to feed our minds to.

We always took time to listen what he brought us next – a communal indulgence of little time-outs of happy.

It’s hard to believe a twenty something with a funny haircut and collarless suit jacket – who landed in New York only 16 years before – was going to impact us in so many ways. He still is…

Did you know all the Beatles music has been remastered and is available for download at itunes?

I’ll bet you they’re going to sell a lot of music today.

“Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeaaaaaaaah…”

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran

Talk about letting go!

Today begins my fourth day without coffee!

My wake up tonic of really strong hot black coffee (normally I only drink coffee in the mornings) so essential for that edgy feeling of being “on point” I’ve become so used to – is a habit I’ve tried to kick many times over the years…

Is it possible to become caffeine saturated? I think I was…

Every morning like a puppet controlled by an invisible master I stumbled into my kitchen – put three heaping scoops of the black course ground stuff in my coffee maker to make about three cups of coffee…

I told you I liked it strong.

I mean the fumes had a jolt and the coffee itself was awful – but I liked it. Slowly I would sip the really bad tasting brew – pondering my day as the rush of caffeine brought me to attention. And my mind started racing…

That’s been the problem.

I think it made me anxious and overreactive – edgy in not a good way.

I hate to think about how many unfinished projects were launched from a caffeine high – that chemically induced euphoric state I call “caffeine clarity”. The problem is, if you got started on anything – after a couple of hours you lost interest as the effects of the caffeine wore off.

Most coffee drinkers just drink more to maintain a consistent “edge” throughout the day. I didn’t. You could say I had “partially quit” a long time ago. My caffeine cut-off point was 12:00 noon – only occasionally when meeting someone (for coffee) would I break my rule.

The benefits:

I’m sleeping better! Such an obvious fix when I think about it. I’m way calmer – far more relaxed – it seems like a major reduction in “mind chatter”. You know racing from one idea and emotion to another…

You know, I like this more relaxed version of myself.

It’ll be interesting as I get used to this more relaxed “place” how much more productive I become…

Okay, I confess – I had a cup of green tea this morning – but only one tea bag.

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob

I’m talking about your “personal headline”…

The first words out of your mouth when somebody says:

“How’s it going?”

Those words affect your life more than possibly anything you may do the rest of the day… The reason?

Post hypnotic suggestion.

This is so obvious we tend to be blind to it’s continuing effects on our lives.
The words you choose to describe your current reality and expectations absolutely have a vibration – which attracts exactly what you expect into your life.

Let me give you an example:

I had an Uncle – who passed – some years back… Every time I saw him I’d ask how he was doing. His answer every time:

“Could be better”.

He had a very palpable “aura” of foreboding around him you could feel. It was actually uncomfortable to be in his presence.

I’m not going to bore you with the details – but his life was a disaster. Some kind of unexpected “slippery slope” situation was always plaguing this poor soul.

I never understood until I was older why the other members of our “family” seemed to shun him… Keeping him at arms length. I think it was a “primal” subconscious reaction to his “vibe”…

He never changed his story in all the years I knew him. What he said was a habitual response. A self-fulfilling prophecy… A cumulative post-hypnotic suggestion. His habitual response was an unconscious affirmation which reinforced his apprehensive worldview.

So, what’s your story? Your unconscious affirmation? Your post-hypnotic suggestion? Your self-fulfilling prophecy?

Are the first words out of your mouth joyful optimism because your life is great and your prospects are unlimited? Or do you subdue your reaction – not wanting to appear too joyful or too optimistic?

My suggestion: Don’t hold back! You are painting your reality and your future with your words.

Frankly, it’s time to flood our day to day realities with words like: Fantastic, unbelievable, incredible, marvelous and wonderful!

YES!…

On a lighter note: Here’s a video of “When Love Comes Again” from my new web site Our Special Secret.com hope you enjoy! click here

-Bob Baran